She has tried to master this several times in the past, but she gets frustrated, we both get the giggles and we decide it isn't a skill that she really needs, anyway. Kalisha never eats 'chunks' of meat; chicken breasts, roast beef, ham, steak, chops. She eats ground or shaved meat, so cutting it with a knife is almost a moot point. It would be good for French toast, though.
My teenage grandson, (Kalisha's nephew) and Kalisha and I sat here last night and discussed all of the things that Kalisha can't do by herself. This wasn't a pick on Kalisha session; she was fully participating and we were all laughing.
I guess the reason this subject even arises is because Kalisha is always asking about how things will work after I die and she has to do things on her own. I try to keep that in mind and I think about it daily. What exactly are the things that she will definitely need to know? I'm sure you are wondering why I am considering this, now, when she is 27 years old. Actually, I wonder that, too. The truth is that when she was young
it didn't occur to me that one day she would have to survive without me. Thought I was immortal, I guess.
Last night, she asked who was going to pluck her eyebrows. I thought about that for a while and decided that if she lived somewhere that she had 'staff' who helped her, one of them could do it. Otherwise, I told her she could have them waxed. The same applies to trimming fingernails and toenails...put a manicure and pedicure in your budget, Kalisha, because even though she will occasionally paint her nails, I can't even imagine her trying to clip them.
When Kalisha was small, I thought she would wear shoes with velcro closures for her entire life. Surprisingly, she learned to tie her shoelaces. She really has a hard time with the tying, so when she gets a new pair of shoes, she puts them on, ties the laces and never does it again, She just slips them on and off with the laces tied.She tried shaving her legs one time with a razor and looked like she had been in a war zone. She can't hold it squarely against her leg, so it slices the skin. Solution? Battery operated razor. Works great!
I already told about Kalisha's fear of the stove in an earlier post. The microwave is a great invention!
She could load or unload a dishwasher, but, alas, we don't have one. She doesn't do the best job of washing dishes but I continue to work with her on that skill. The upside is this: if she only uses the microwave, she shouldn't have too many to wash and if she wants to eat off of paper plates forever, would that be so bad??
We had a good laugh about putting the new roll of TP on the holder. It flies clear across the bathroom when she tries to put it on. My other children never did it either, but only because they were too lazy to put a new roll on, not because they couldn't. Solution? Buy the stand up kind of holder. Just slide the rolls onto it.
She can't use a scissors. It just bends over when she tries. We keep working on that,(since preschool) and sometimes I ask her to cut out a coupon for me. It may be missing part of the bar code or the date, and it sort of looks like she chewed it out of the flyer, but it will get done.
In my humble opinion, things that she can't do because of poor fine motor skills, fall into three categories:
1) with lots of effort, she could learn a variation of the skill 2) the task can be accomplished with some accommodations 3) she doesn't really need to learn the skill, anyway.